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Living the Juicy is a fortnightly newsletter packed with useful resources, information and articles for women who have a desire to live their lives as confident, feminine, sensual 21st century beings. 

Living as a sensual being is a whole woman-whole person-whole life journey.  Making any kind of change to one area of your life will naturally have an impact on other areas of your life too.  By letting go of old beliefs and old ways of behaving you are creating space for the new YOU. 

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January 15, 2009

So, what is sensual?

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To start with, I would just like to make it clear that whatever aspect of your life you choose to look will have an impact on the rest of your life.  This is often described as the ripple effect.  So looking at your sensuality as one aspect of your life will automatically put the rest of your life under the microscope. Being sensual is a whole person whole woman journey, and is a journey that will have an extremely positive and profound impact on all areas of your life.  It is up to you how far you want to go, and to set your own pace.

What being sensual wont do for you

Being, feeling, living, experiencing yourself as a sensual being does not mean that you will do the female equivalent of the Full Monty whilst you queue at the bank, nor will you end up rushing off to shag the local rugby team as an appetizer before you hit the town on a Friday night.  Nor will you turn into a rubber-clad dominatrix stalking vulnerable men to drag back to your lair.  I could go on, but I think you get the point.
 
So deep breath in, gently exhale, and relax back into your seat to continue reading.
 
Being sensual is about you being all of your true self, the best you can possibly be as a woman and a human being each and every day.  Living and enjoying your life at its best.
  
You'll need a journal for this exercise.  Use something that represents sensual to you, alternatively make it sensual.  Get really creative and decorate it to express that.  You could 'adapt' a photo of yourself or create a 'before' and 'after' of yourself.  Magazines are great for pictures, and words, colour, glitter, anything you fancy.  I use a journal covered with red velvet.  A friend of mine bought it for me - she knows I'm a stationary junkie, and that I absolutely LOVE the colour red!  It is the journal that epitomises sensual to me.  So I invite you to play full out, and remember it will be a work in progress.  This is all part of your journey.  If you do not find what you are looking for make it, and yes, by all means cover the outside of the journal with fabric if that's what makes you feel good.  It's your journal.  Be open to it changing as you move along your journey.  

My invitation to you 
 
Find a place where you can be alone and won't be disturbed.  Maybe close your eyes for a couple of minutes and allow yourself to be present.  When you're ready open your eyes and we'll get started.  Give yourself plenty of time, this is not an exam.  It is an opportunity for you to begin learning about yourself.
 
Remember to use everything for your growth; whether it be healing on old hurt, or discovering something wonderful and new about yourself. 
 
Ready to get started?   Ok, let's begin.
 
1)  So, what is sensual?
  
Write down the first thoughts that come into your head.  Don't analyse any them, just simply write.  It doesn't need to make any sense.  It could simply be a picture in your mind, or a feeling in your body.  Be aware of where in your body, how is it making you feel.  What are you experiencing.  Write it all down.

Is it that your are more sexy, more confident, more empowered, that you feel feminine, softer, grounded, wiser, funnier?  Are you making different choices and decisions in your life?  Are you steering your life in the direction you want to go?
 
What does it look like. How does it feel.  What thoughts and beliefs do you have.  How does your body feel.  How do you feel about you.
                                  
Maybe sensual is about pampering yourself more.  Maybe you would like to wear designer dresses and high heeled shoes with sparkling diamonds and long gloves.  Perhaps you would like more self confidence.  Unleash your imagination and creativity.  Go wild.
 
How does the sensual 'you' dress?  How does the sensual 'you' take care of her body?  Does the sensual 'you' exercise?  What does the sensual 'you' eat?  What does the sensual 'you' do for fun? 
Keep going until you have exhausted the list.  Remember to give yourself permission to play full out.  Write down absolutely everything that comes to mind, even it does feel a little uncomfortable, or strange.

2)  If you were asked to name a woman who represents the epitome of sensuality to you who would that be?
 
What is it about them that represents 'sensuality' to you?
 
Remember, this is all about YOU.  There is no right or wrong about this exercise, and none of it is set in stone.  As a woman you are constantly changing and evolving.  So you are likely to discover that the responses you have now change as you travel along your journey.  Right now this is purely a starting point. 
 
3)  What do you feel you don't have in order to live life as a sensual, confident, feminine woman? 
 
List everything for all of questions.  Keep you going until you feel you've exhausted your list.
 
Now as you go about your life for the next few days simply observe whether the beliefs you have around YOU and your sensuality are true?  Start to notice how you are feeling about yourself having 'outed' all this information about yourself.  Question the beliefs you listed for item 3.  Are they really true of you?  Simply observe yourself.  
 
This article has been adapted from my new eCourse - out soon! 

January 12, 2009

New Years Resolutions!...what are yours called?

Semple_085 Well, where to begin.  The year certainly seems to have started with increased energy and enthusiasm, and I feel like I am raring to go!  It used to be that years ago I would make the traditional New Years resolutions and feel compelled to start everything on the 1st of January, and should anything fall off the wagon along the way it was deemed a failure and crossed off the list until the following year to repeat the whole performance again.

These days I like to feel that I am a lot gentler on myself as far as choosing the intentions I have for the year and how I feel I would like them to roll out. So absolutely NOTHING ever starts on the first day of the year.  If anything, January is the month in which I clear the decks, tie up any loose ends from the previous year and begin brainstorming, simply emptying my thoughts onto paper in any old manner.  From there I usually get a feel for whether there are clusters of ideas, or a theme that could form a whole 'project'.  Although even now I feel words like goals, and objectives, and projects are such harsh ways of explaining the pull of something exciting that emerges from the inner depths but has no name.  It is just a knowing of a direction I am choosing to go in, simply following my heart irrespective of whether it intellectually makes any sense or is explainable. It is just good old reliable female intuition tried and tested, and simply listening to my heart.  Whatever brings me joy, juices me up, and makes want to leap out of my bed each day!

So what are my 'intentions' for 2009?  Well, one of them is to be a lot more visible, so you will be seeing and hearing from me a whole lot more than you did last year.  I will be sharing with you absolutely everything I know, learn, experience, observe around women and their sensuality, and how to have more of it.  How to create harmony between the masculine and feminine energies in everyday life. 

January 01, 2009

Here's to an amazing 2009!

Img013Happy New Year!  Here's to an amazing year full of magic, miracles, and manifesting like it's going out of fashion.  Bring on the juice!  Roll out the red carpet of abundance, and let the party begin!

I have a strong sense that it's going to be an awesome year!

Here's the first day of my shoe calender for 2009.  It couldn't get any yummier than starting off with a Manolo... the better it gets, the better it gets.

Watch out for my new eCourse PLUS a great SPECIAL OFFER coming soon!

October 19, 2008

Sanitary towels and tampons

Fotolia_3862627_XSThrough the ages women have used different forms of menstrual protection. Menstrual pads have been mentioned as early as the 10th century, in the Suda, where Hypatia, who lived in the 4th century AD, was said to have thrown one of her used menstrual rags at an admirer in an attempt to turn him off. The Museum of Menstruation has articles and photos of some early forms of menstrual protection, including among other things knitted pads and menstrual aprons. Women often used strips of folded old cloth (rags) to catch their menstrual blood, which is why the term "on the rag" is used to refer to menstruation.

Disposable menstrual pads appear to have been first commercially available from around 1888 with the Southall's pad. Disposable pads had their start with nurses using their wood pulp bandages to catch their menstrual flow, creating a pad that was made from easily obtainable materials and inexpensive enough to throw away after use. Kotex's first advertisement for products made with this wood pulp appeared in 1921.  Several of the first disposable pad manufacturers were also manufacturers of bandages, which could give an indication of what these products were like.

Until disposable sanitary pads were created, cloth or reusable pads were widely used to collect menstrual blood. Women often used a variety of home-made menstrual pads which they crafted from various fabrics, leftover scraps, grass, or other absorbent materials, to collect menstrual blood.  Many probably used nothing at all.  Even after disposable pads were commercially available, for several years they were too expensive for many women to afford.  When they could be afforded, women were allowed to place money in a box so that they would not have to speak to the clerk and take a box of Kotex pads from the counter themselves. It took several years for disposable menstrual pads to become commonplace. However, they are now used nearly exclusively in most of the industrialized world

The first of the disposable pads were generally in the form of a cotton wool or similar fibrous rectangle covered with an absorbent liner. The liner ends were extended front and back so as to fit through loops in a special girdle or belt worn beneath undergarments. This design was notorious for slipping either forward or back of the intended position.

Later an adhesive strip was placed on the bottom of the pad for attachment to the saddle of the panties, and this became a favoured method with women. The belted sanitary napkin quickly became unavailable after the mid-eighties.

The ergonomic design of the pad also changed through the 1980s to today. With earlier materials not being as absorbent and effective, and early pads being up to two centimetres thick, leaks were a major problem. Some variations introduced were quilting of the lining, adding "wings" and reducing the thickness of the pad by utilising products such as sphagnum. The ergonomic designs changed over the years; for example, the Australian Libra brand initially had a pad that was wider at the front, tapering at the back to provide a more aesthetic appearance; the current variation now has a wide dovetail at the back, giving functionality a higher priority.

Cloth menstrual pads made a comeback around the 1970s, with their popularity increasing in the late 80s and early 90s. Some popular reasons why women choose to switch to cloth menstrual pads include the following: comfort, savings over time, environmental impact, and health reasons.

There are many styles of cloth menstrual pads available today. Popular styles of cloth menstrual pads include all-in-one, or AIO pads, in which the absorbent layer is sewn inside the pad, 'inserts on top' style pads, which have absorbent layers that can be secured on top of the pad as needed, envelope or pocket style pads, which have absorbent layers that can be inserted inside the pad as needed, and a foldable style, in which the pad folds around the absorbent layers. Cloth menstrual pads can have waterproof lining, which provides more leak protection but may also be less breathable.

In underdeveloped countries, reusable or makeshift pads are still used to collect menstrual blood. Rags, soil, and mud are also reportedly used for collecting menstrual flow.

Fotolia_6210512_XS The ancient Egyptians invented the first disposable tampons made from softened papyrus. The ancient Greeks invented tampons made from lint wrapped around a small piece of wood, recorded in writing by Hippocrates in the fifth century B.C. Other materials used for the first tampons have included: wool, paper, vegetable fibers, sponges, grass, and later cotton.


 

As a medical device, the tampon, (from the French for plug, or stopper) has been around since the 19th century, when antiseptic cotton tampons treated with salicylates were used to stop the bleeding from bullet wounds, and there have been reports of modern menstrual tampons being used for the same purpose by soldiers in the Iraq War.

 

The applicator tampon with removal cord was invented in 1929 and submitted for patent in 1931 by Dr. Earle Haas, an American man from Denver, Colorado. Dr Hass later sold the patent of the applicator tampon to Gertrude Tendrich, who founded the Tampax Company for the mass production of the lengthways expanding tampon It is documented that Dr. Judith Esser-Mittag a gynaecologist developed, during her studies on the female anatomy, the digital design of tampon. In the late 1940’s, Dr. Carl Hahn, together with Heinz Mittag worked on the mass production of such a tampon. Dr. Hahn sold his Company which included the digital style tampon range to Johnson and Johnson in 1974.

 

Tampons come in various sizes, which are related to their absorbency ratings and packaging. The outward appearance of a tampon is similar for all brands, but once used some will perform differently to others. The two main differences are in the way the tampon expands when in use; for example Tampax tampons will expand, in the main lengthways, whilst OB and Lil-lets tampons will expand width-ways. All tampons have a cord for removal and some have an additional outer cover to aid insertion and withdrawal. Some women prefer to use a tampon which is contained within an applicator to further aid insertion. The majority of tampons sold are made of cotton, or rayon, or a blend of the two. Tampons are sold individually wrapped to keep them clean, and because the vagina is not a sterile body-cavity, and for the vast majority of ladies contains “good bacteria”, there is no need for any menstrual device to be sterilized.

The benefits of Tampons versus sanitary towels are a menstrual device worn completely inside the vaginal canal with the exception of the string. Thus they offer discretion and freedom to women allowing activities such as swimming to continue without interruption. It is usually not necessary to remove a tampon before urinating or having a bowel movement.

 

Unlike sanitary pads, menstrual blood is not exposed to the air with the use of tampons, so there is limited odour. There is no way to see that a woman is using a tampon when she is clothed, unlike sanitary pads, which have outlines that can sometimes be seen through fabric. As a disposable product, there is no need to wash anything in between use.

October 16, 2008

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Looking for sensual inspiration that will make you feel alive, feminine, and all woman!


Juicysecrets_small I’m delighted to have the opportunity to offer you over twenty Juicy Secrets to Unleash Your Sensual Goddess. All of these exercises are fantastic and all of them will hit the spot, whether it is something that is gentle, something that is more adventurous, something that is meditative and spiritual, something that is playful – there is a huge range of exercises and ideas that will support you at your stage of the journey!

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This easy-to-use, easy-to-follow ebook comprises over 20 gentle, fun, and sensual exercises that you can play with and change to suit yourself each time you do them. Andrea delivers to you a collection of ideas and suggestions that help you discover and connect with your Inner Sensual Goddess. The more you explore, the more of your experience you will integrate into your everyday life.


Whether you are new to your journey or already connected with your divine feminine self, these 20+ exercises – some of which are Andrea’s own personal favourites – will transform how you feel about your body, yourself, and your life!


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From Andrea

As a woman does being sensual mean that you will not be taken seriously as an intelligent intellectual human being? Or, that sensual women are man-eating vamps and seductresses? Those definitely used to be my thoughts on the subject.


It has occurred to me over the year’s that being sensual is quite different to being sexy. The first is an inner experience, something quite spiritual, and the second is much more of an external experience. A way we choose to express our sexuality, for example, by the way we choose to dress.


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September 27, 2008

Phenomenal Woman

I was sorting through some papers over the weekend and I came across this poem by Maya Angelou...

 

 

Pretty woman wonder where my secret lies

I'm not cute or built to fit fashion model size

But when I start to tell them

They think I'm telling lies

I say

It's in the reach of my arms

The span of my hips

The stride of my steps

I'm a woman

Phenomenally

Phenomenal woman

That's me

 

I walk in a room

Just as cool as you please

And to a man

The fellows stand or

Fall down on their knees

Then they swarm around me

A hive of honey bees

I say

It's the fire in my eyes

And the flash of my teeth

The swing of my waist

And the joy of my feet

I'm a woman

Phenomenally

Phenomenal woman

That's me

 

Men themselves have wondered

What they see in me

They try so much

But the cant touch

My inner mystery

When I try to show them

They say they still can't see

I say

It's in the arch of my back

The sun of my smile

The ride of my breasts

The grace of my style

I'm a woman

Phenomenally

Phenomenal woman

That's me

 

Now you understand

Just why my heads not bowed

I don't shout or jump about

Or have to talk real loud

When you see me passing

It ought to make you proud

I say

It's in the click of my heels

The palm of my hand

The need of my care

'cause I'm a woman

Phenomenally

Phenomenal woman

That's me

September 08, 2008

How well-heeled are you?

Raised heels came about circa 1500 as a response to the problem of the horse rider's foot slipping forward in stirrups while riding.  The simple riding heel was the starting point for a more stylized heel over its first three decades. Starting with the French, heel heights among men crept up, often becoming higher and thinner, until they were no longer useful while riding, and became "court-only" footwear.  By the late 1600s, men's heels were between three and four inches in height.

In 1533, the diminutive wife of the Duke of Orleans, Catherine de' Medici, commissioned a cobbler to design a pair of heels, both for fashion, and to increase her stature. They were an adaptation of chopines (elevated wooden soles with both heel and toe raised not unlike modern platform shoes), but unlike chopines the heel was higher than the toe and the "platform" was made to bend in the middle with the foot.

High-heeled shoes quickly caught on with the fashion-conscious men and women of the French court, and spread to pockets of nobility in other countries. The term "well-heeled" became synonymous with opulent wealth. Both men and women continued wearing heels as a matter of noble fashion throughout the seventeenth and eighteenth centuries. When the French Revolution drew near, in the late 1700s, the practice of wearing heels fell into decline in France due to its associations with wealth and aristocracy. Throughout most of the 1800s, flat shoes and sandals were usual for both sexes, but the heel resurfaced in fashion during the late 1800s, almost exclusively among women.

The stiletto heel came with the advent of technology using a supporting metal shaft within the heel, instead of wood or other, weaker materials that required a wide heel.

A stiletto heel/spike heel (which is by far my favourite) is a long, thin heel. Its name comes from the stiletto dagger.  Stiletto heels vary from 2.5 centimetres (1 inch) to 20 cm (8 inches) high and sometimes have a diameter at the ground of less than 1 cm (slightly less than half an inch). The shorter heeled version are more commonly known as kitten heels.

Stiletto heels are often associated with the image of the femme fatale. They are often considered to be a seductive item of clothing.  Stilettos give the optical illusion of a longer, slimmer leg, a smaller foot, and a greater overall height (and for a woman who is only 5’ 2”/1.55m high that can make a huge difference). They also change the wearer's posture and walk, flexing the calf muscles, and making the bust and buttocks more prominent.

Some people think that stiletto heels cause wearers to be much less stable than wider high heels due to the small diameter of the heel.  This is a fallacy.  The act of balancing in a high, thin-heeled shoe occurs at the front of the foot, not at the heel.  A high wide heeled shoe with a deep, rigid platform sole may feel sturdy when stationary, but is more likely to completely capsize and cause the ankle to sprain or fracture, as opposed to a  teetering stiletto shoe with a thin flexible sole may appear to wobble and tremble, but does not have the disastrous "point of no return".  There is a myth that regular wear of stiletto heels causes leg, hip and back problems.  Provided the design of the stiletto shoe is good and balanced, the higher the heel, e.g. four inch heels, the more delicately the wearer walks, primarily on tiptoe, thus placing very little weight down on her heel.  Stress damage to the skeleton due to walking impact during prolonged wear is far more likely to occur with the harmless-looking, low to medium stiletto heel many women favour for all-day wear.  This permits a more normal walk, takes more of the wearer's weight than a higher heel, and transmits the force of that concentrated weight into the ground sharply when walking, thus causing shock waves up the spine.

Physicists at the Institute of Physics ( London, UK) have devised a formula based on your shoe size that tells you the maximum height of heel you can wear!  Read on ladies, this gets really interesting.

h = Q•(12+3s /8)

h is the maximum height of the heel (in cm)


Q is a sociological factor and has a value between 0 and 1 (see below to work this out)


S is the shoe size ( UK ladies sizes). This factor makes sure that the base of support is just good enough for an experienced and sober, high-heel wearer not to fall over.

 

'Q' is defined as follows:

             p•(y+9)•L
Q = ----------------------------------
         (t+1)•(A+1)•(y+10)•(L+£20)

 

 

The variables are:

 

 

p – the probability that wearing the shoes will help you 'pull' (in a range from 0 to 1, where 1 is extra hot and 0 is stick to carpet slippers). If the shoes are a turn-off, there's no point wearing them.

 

 

y – the number of years experience you have in wearing high heels. As you become more adept, you can wear a higher heel. Beginners should take it easy.

 

 

L – the cost of the shoes, in pounds. Clearly, if the shoe is particularly expensive, you can put up with a higher heel.

 

 

t – the time since the shoe was the height of fashion, in months (0 = it's the 'in thing' right now!). One has to suffer for one's art, and if the shoes are terribly fashionable, you should be prepared to put up with a little pain.

 

 

A – units of alcohol consumed. If you're planning on drinking, be careful to give yourself a little leeway for reduced coordination.

 

 

So using this formula, if Sex and the City’s Carrie Bradshaw, who is an experienced high-heel wearer (let's guess at 5 years experience) wears her latest drop-dead gorgeous designer originals when sober, she can cope with a heel height of a staggering 12.5 centimetres (just over 5 inches) [See footnote 2]. However, if she over-indulges in cocktails, the 'safe' heel height (and perhaps also Carrie) plummets. Using the same example as above, if she consumes 6 units of alcohol she would be better advised to stick to shoes with only 2cm heels. [See footnote 3].

 

 

Laura Grant, a physicist from Liverpool University welcomes the Institute's new formula commenting, "many of my physicist colleagues have no trouble understanding quantum mechanics but can't figure out how women can wear high heels. Now I can explain to them how I minimise the probability of tripping up".

Footnotes:

1 Pythagoras' theorem: In a right-angled triangle, the square of the hypotenuse (longest side) is equal to the sum of the squares of the other two sides.

 

2 In this example, shoe size (s) is 6 p = 1, y = 5, L = £300, t = 0, A = 0 giving a Q factor of 0.88
so heel height is 12.54 cm

 

 

3 As above but with A (alcohol) = 6, Q factor falls to 0.15, giving a heel height of 2.01cm

August 20, 2008

Self Pleasuring for Todays Woman

Fotolia_1860851_S I always feel the word masturbation sounds rather clinical.  It conjures up a vision of something very Ms Marple and a stout pair of walking shoes.  “Ok gels, assume the position, and masturbate at will!”.  I don’t know about you, but that really doesn’t feel particularly sensual, or intimate, or fun, whereas the thought of self-pleasuring hits the spot for me, that’s juicy!

Self-pleasuring is a wonderful means for a woman to experience sexual pleasure without a partner.  It is a delicious way for a woman to learn about her body, to enjoy exploring and discovering what she likes, and what makes her juicy.  Many women experience their most intense orgasms while self-pleasuring.

There are no right or wrong ways to experience pleasure.  Some women feel they should be able to orgasm, but it is important to remember that each woman's body is different so is her psychological makeup.  Some women can orgasm using a variety of ways whilst others find they only orgasm by using the same method each time.  Self-pleasuring is about pleasuring yourself and therefore about enjoying your body, and enjoying exploring your own body.

~         Create a space where you can completely relax, be alone, undisturbed, and can spend as much time as you want enjoying your experience.  Make use of cushions and throws, anything that adds to creating a sensual and relaxing space.  You may find this easier to do naked, but to begin with if it feels more comfortable then undress down to your underwear.  To begin with lay on your back, close your eyes and take a deep breathe, and gently exhale.  With each breathe surrender a little more.  When you are ready slowly bend your legs and then gently spread them apart.

~         There are various ways of doing this, for example, you may like to focus on an experience you have had, or elaborate on a favorite sexual fantasy.  Unleash your imagination, explore anything that heightens your excitement and juiciness.  Remember, fantasies are simply thoughts which you are in charge of so have it anyway you like it. 

~         Play with running your hands over your body, lingering on those areas of your body that feel a little more sensitive to touch than other areas. You may like to look at your body, in a mirror especially, if you are unfamiliar with them.  Caress the different parts of you to see what feels especially good. Explore your inner and outer labia, your clitoris, your vagina and your perineum.

~         Using one or two fingers, rhythmically stroke the different parts of your vulva, paying particular attention to your clitoris and labia.  Explore caressing your yoni with different types of pressure, speed and motion. Try placing a finger on either side of the clitoris and stroking up and down, or placing two fingers on the clitoral hood and gently rubbing in a circular motion.  Try different types of touch: stroke, tickle, knead, pinch, or lightly pull your genitals. Try using one or several fingers, the palm of your hand, even your knuckles.

~         Play with holding onto the sexual excitement.  Allow it to build up, and then reduce or stop the stimulation.  Really pay attention to how your body responds to each type of touch, you will discover which stroke feels best and when to pick up or slow down.  Remember to breathe deeply this helps release your sexual energy.  Allow your body and particularly your pelvis to rock as you would during intercourse.  Rhythmically clench and release your PC muscle.

~         If your hand gets tired, give yourself a rest, switch hands, or try a dildo. If you are on the brink of orgasm, but cannot quite get over the hump, try altering your breathing, or focusing on a really hot fantasy.  As you begin to orgasm, continue the stimulation through the orgasm. Lighten up on the stimulation during the first extremely sensitive moments but keep it going to enjoy those little pleasurable aftershocks. Your first orgasm may feel like a blip or a blast, but the more you do this, the more variety you will experience.

~         Don't worry if you don't come, the more you give yourself permission to pleasure yourself the more you relax over time and discover what really works for you.  This isn’t a contest.  There are no prizes.  This is simply about pleasure.  Your pleasure.  It couldn’t any easier than that.

August 18, 2008

Hair Detox - Week 6

The six weeks were up last week, in fact.  So how is my hair?  Well.  Still quite waxy, still detoxing, and still getting softer by the day :O)

 

One of my friends inspected it at the weekend, bearing in mind that I don't actually like having my hair touched unless I'm having it cut.  Her first reaction when she saw me was that it was looking great; the way I was wearing it, the colour, and the way the hair itself looked.  I'm still wearing it up at the moment, so its full fluffiness is kept under wraps most of the time.  Her first comment as she ran her fingers through it was how much softer it had become since I’d started washing it with water only (WO).  So.  No, the journey is not complete yet. 

 

 

Having delved a little deeper with my research I discovered a chat room called The Long Hair Community.  You may recall that my original research suggested between 4 to six weeks.   One WO washer wrote:

 

"Many people hit the worst hair problems at the 5th or 6th week, and then find it smooth sailing after that. It appears six or eight weeks is needed to find out if WO will work for you."

My hair is pretty much shoulder length and I've decided not to have it cut or trimmed until the detox has run its course.  At this rate it’ll be ready in time for Christmas.  Do watch out for my Grand Hair Premier’ at the end of the year, darlings. 

Besides observing my hair evolve and progress through this waxy oily stage of its life.  The really fun part is that I get to treat myself to a variety of different clips and hair accessories.  Some are quite plain for the day time, and others for 'out with the girls time' have added sparkle!  Wearing my hair up is actually really low maintenance and to be honest I love it.  I've always loved those old black and white movies where the starlet has her hair neatly pinned up in a French Pleat, or Chignon.  This has to be one of the chicest and most sensual ways a woman can wear her hair, and for once I actually have enough hair to wear it that way and to wear it well, may I say.

August 06, 2008

Hair Detox - Week Five

As I come to the end of week five of the detox what I find most noticeable about my hair is how much softer it's feeling.� It is still quite waxy at the roots,� and has not reached a point where I feel like leaving it down or touching it as I used to BUT it is changing.� Whether the process will be complete by the end of week six ( 14 August) has yet to be seen.� Somehow, I doubt that the waxiness will miraculously disappear over the next week, but you never know.� I have played with leaving longer gaps between washing it, which I found has made a difference.�

Another observation has been that reverting back to using shampoo or any type of�conventional hair product now feels very much a thing of the past.�

Watch out for my post next week for the final part of my six-week hair detox.